EXAMINING YOUR MOTIVES (1) Diotrephes…loves…the preeminence. 3 John 9 (NKJV)

By Moma-Enkay

One pastor writes: “Years ago I wanted to lead a certain ministry. When I wasn’t chosen I became angry. Of course I didn’t show it. That’s not to say I didn’t love God. I just wanted to serve me more than Him! By saying NO, God was correcting a destructive attitude that would destroy any real ministry I might have later. When you represent God so visibly, it’s nearly impossible for anyone to detect that you’re a fake…except God.”

Many of us suffer from “approval addiction.” The symptoms are: living in bondage to what others think of us; getting easily hurt by what they say; a nagging sense that we aren’t good enough; trying to impress important people. And like all addicts we’ll go to any lengths for a “fix”.

Henri Nouwen writes, “Many of my daily preoccupations suggest that I belong more to the world {than to God}. A little criticism makes me angry…a little praise raises my spirits… Often I am like a small boat on the ocean, completely at the mercy of the waves.”

Paul writes, “But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged by you… it is the Lord who judges me” (1Cor 4:3-4). Imagine being librated from the need to impress, our self-esteem no longer resting on someone else noticing how smart or attractive we are. Imagine being able to actually feel love toward someone who expresses disapproval of us. It’s not only possible, with God’s help and a lot of hard work-it’s attainable!


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