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SEX AND LASTING RELATIONSHIP WINNING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL WAR By Rev Canon Chinemerem UChe

People who spend time listening to negative stories, especially negative stories about their own inabilities, suddenly come to believe that they do not have all it takes to solve a problem, wade through challenges and overcome an obstacle. Psychological warfare wants to stop you in your astronomical rise. Psychological warfare wants to make you a nobody, chaff and a person with an inconsequential personality. Psychological warfare has a clever way of cooking up unfounded stories to make one spend his or her energy defending correcting such calumny. A person not so strong in his or her personality might fall for the trap of unfounded stories. He or she may begin to believe the story that he or she did it and must have forgotten when it was done. Sometimes victims of deft psychological warfare begin to think that they have two personalities, the one they are aware of and the one they are not aware of and cannot control. Psychological warfare aims to damage one’s reputation so that donors and admirers withdraw from giving their support. This is a wicked way of putting a lid on a person’s potentials. Psychological warfare cripples one’s ability to make use of what is proved as right and truthful. Marsha Sinetar in his book “Do what You Love, The Money Will Follow” says, “People who don’t think well of themselves violate their own life and its directives in favour of the wishes and expectation of others.” If you want to cage a man in such a way that his inherent powers become in active, inundate him with his faults.

When the children of Israel were about entering the promised land, Moses sent out twelve spies to spy the land and bring a report on the state of Canaan which they were about to possess. When the spies got there, they saw giants. Ten of the spies were so freighted that they gave this report: “We scouted out the land from one end to the other — it’s a land that swallows people whole. Everybody we saw was huge. Why, we even saw the Nephilim giants (the Anak giants come from the Nephilim). Alongside them we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.” (Num 13:32-33. The Message Bible). If you look at the way the ten crafted their report, you will notice that it seemed as if the way the giants looked at them made them lose sight of their potential to take Canaan as promised by the Lord who made the heaven and the earth. They simply said, “they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.” The giants simply applied psychological warfare on them and that did the magic!

Nevertheless, the resilience of Caleb and Joshua is worthy of note and emulation. They were confident that despite the presence of giants that they were able to go up and take the country. The basis of their confidence is revealed in what seemed like a minority report: “Two of the men who had explored the land, Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh, tore their clothing. They said to all the people of Israel, “The land we traveled through and explored is a wonderful land! And if the Lord is pleased with us, he will bring us safely into that land and give it to us. It is a rich land flowing with milk and honey. Do not rebel against the Lord, and don’t be afraid of the people of the land. They are only helpless prey to us! They have no protection, but the Lord is with us! Don’t be afraid of them!” (Num 14:6-9). Joshua and Caleb were men of valour who spent time listening to the Lord than the unfounded stories of men. Joshua and Caleb here are teaching us that no man can make you feel inferior without your consent. This is how to defeat the person who uses psychological warfare against you. To believe the report of the Lord is to defeat the ranting of the foe! To navigate through life, you will need God’s word as your compass as well as your anchor. Parents vanquish the future of their children by telling them that they are good for nothing kids. Those who do this do not know that they are unleashing a great war against the potentials of their children. If your child does not know mathematics for instance, and likes to draw, do not cajole such a child by making fun at drawing and all fine artists. His potential and pedestal of greatness might be laden in arts. If Children are told that they can do all things through Christ who gives them strength, they will move through life with a winning mentality.

Psychological warfare can be used positively especially in the business environment. Have you heard advert like this, “If you go to school without using our product then you cannot not be a world class student.” This is just a simple way to defeat other products and make yours come to the front burner of a student’s desire in buying academic materials. This story will further illustrate how to use psychological means to attract patronage:

The story is told of a young boy who, during a bygone era, was aboard a passenger train attempting to make money selling apples. He made his way through the train car, saying, “Apples! Would you like to buy an apple?” When he got to the rear of the car, he still had a bagful of apples and no money. A gentleman who noticed his plight took him aside and asked to see one of the apples. He proceeded to go to the front of the train, polish it conspicuously with a napkin, and then walk down the aisle eating the apple and commenting on how delicious and refreshing it was. Then he told the boy to try again. This time, he sold every apple. The difference? The apples had been made attractive to the potential customers. (Our Daily Bread online, June 28, 2014).

I humbly suggest that every graduate should do a course or some courses in human psychology before they graduate from school. This will help them to exude self confidence and not shy away from a competitive environment. Talking tough, does not mean being able to do tough things. It might just be a clever way of covering up weakness and it is only those who are well trained to detect this that can withstand such warfare. If we develop the art of self confidence through the word of God and in His Son Jesus Christ, we shall be able to detect and overcome the tricks of the new age so called men of God who only use psychological means to make people lose their ability to reason or put up a resistance to their requests and rituals. Look at the way Nehemiah reacted when psywar was tried on him: “Later I went to visit Shemaiah son of Delaiah and grandson of Mehetabel, who was confined to his home. He said, “Let us meet together inside the Temple of God and bolt the doors shut. Your enemies are coming to kill you tonight.” But I replied, “Should someone in my position run from danger? Should someone in my position enter the Temple to save his life? No, I won’t do it!” I realized that God had not spoken to him, but that he had uttered this prophecy against me because Tobiah and Sanballat had hired him. They were hoping to intimidate me and make me sin. Then they would be able to accuse and discredit me. (Neh 6:10-13).

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