3 Keys to defeating fear and anxiety once and for all

By Patrick Mabilog

The magnitude of the effect of fear and anxiety is often undermined. But anxiety can become extremely crippling when left unchecked. God doesn’t want us living in fear and anxiety. He instead invites us to live by faith.
Why do fear and anxiety find their way into our hearts? 1 John 4:18 tells us why: “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” When we are anxious, we forget the perfect love that God has for us and the benefits it brings. When we come to know more and more of God’s love, we will slowly watch all anxiety and fear melt away.
Here are three essential keys to understanding God’s perfect love which will cause us to beat anxiety and fear.
See yourself the way God sees you
Jesus once spoke on the topic of anxiety. He said, “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?” (Matthew 6:26)
What’s Jesus trying to say here? He compares our worth to the birds and shows us how even birds, animals, flowers and plants he takes care of. Often we forget how God sees us. He sees us as more valuable than all creation and thus promises to take care of us because He loves us.
Remember God’s promises
The Bible is full of God’s promises that are made for us to receive by faith and enjoy. All promises are now yes and amen through Christ. You don’t have to work for it or to earn it because Jesus paid the price in full so that you can live in Him. All He asks us to do now is to receive by faith.
What’s the best way to know God’s promises? It’s to go back to the Word where all God’s wonderful promises of life, joy and purpose are found. Be reminded everyday of what God is willing to do for you if you’re willing to trust in Him instead of doubt and fear.
Seek God first
Matthew 6:33 gives us the most important reminder: “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” The greatest assurance of God taking care of all things that we might become anxious of is knowing that these all come when we seek Him first.
Many of us seek too many things. When we simplify our life and start to desire Jesus, His presence and His work in our life first, He takes care of all our needs. When we seek riches, fame, success, security and significance first we start to worry, but when we seek God first, faith will arise.
Christian marriage: 7 signs you are ready for marriage
Patrick Mabilog 23 April 2017 | 9:46 PM
Marriage isn’t rocket science, but it’s no joke either. Many people walk down the aisle thinking they’re ready to commit to a lifelong partnership only to regretfully end it a few years later.
Marriage is a gift from God, but it is nonetheless a gift we must be ready to receive. Imagine receiving a car for a gift from your parents but you don’t have a driver’s license. We all know that’s a formula for certain disaster! Our marriages are no different. We need to be ready for when God gives us the gift of a spouse.
How do we know we’re ready for marriage? Here are seven signs to look out for, and to also aim for as well.
1. Marriage no longer determines your identity. Are you seeking to get married to gain approval, acceptance or status? A marriage is a bad source of all of this. Only Jesus is the true source of a secured identity.
2. You seek to serve more than being served. Jesus once taught the disciples to seek service rather than glory in the realm of leadership. The same truth applies in our marriages. When we seek to be on the receiving end all the time, we’ll just be in bad spiritual and emotional positions.
3. You seek the fruits of the Spirit. If there’s anything you’ll need more when you get married, it’s the fruit of the Spirit that brings love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). When we walk by the Spirit in our marriage, we will be able to walk in love for our spouse more and more.
4. You have a sound understanding of who God is to you. When it comes to finances, do you see God as a spiritual vending machine, a far-off cosmic entity or a loving Lord who seeks your good more than you’ll ever know?
5. Sanctity is your priority. Sure, there are no perfect couples, but that doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be a to live in righteousness and fidelity. Hebrews 13:4, ESV “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”
6. You seek Jesus more than anything else. Companionship is not the ultimate prize of marriage. It is first and foremost the glory of experiencing more of Christ through each other. Philippians 3:14 tells us, “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
7. You have learned to love yourself. The second greatest commandment is not just a call to love others but to also love yourself the right way. As Jesus once said, we are to love our neighbors AS ourselves (Mark 12:31), not more than ourselves. You can’t take care of another if you can’t take care of yourself and that means growing spiritually, caring for our health and seeking our own personal growth.

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